Drinking habits one common factor in divorce

It is not unusual for couples to have different interests and passions. Indeed, as the old saying goes, opposites attract. But having vastly different attitudes about drinking alcohol may not be the best ways for spouses to build a lasting marriage. According to a recent study by researchers at the University of Buffalo, couples are more likely to split when only one person is a heavy alcohol drinker.

As part of the study, researchers followed a number of newlywed couples for almost 10 years. They discovered that about 50 percent of spouses who did not have the same drinking habits eventually filed for divorce. The divorce rate for couples with similar drinking habits - either those who both abstained from alcohol or those who both drank heavily - was about the same at 30 percent.

Researchers found that drinking itself was not the primary cause of divorce, but rather behaviors that arise from differing habits. For example, if one spouse drinks and the other does not, it means that they are less likely to socialize together and may even have different groups of friends. A lack of quality social time together can lead to significant rifts in a couple's relationship.

Researchers also pointed out that differing attitudes about alcohol consumption may indicate that a couple is incompatible. Among divorcing couples, basic incompatibility is cited as one of the most common reasons for splitting up.

For those couples who recognize that differences in drinking habits are causing problems in their relationships, they should consider changing their behavior. For example, experts recommend setting a limit to drinking on weeknights and agreeing to stop purchasing hard liquor. Couples should also consider reaching out to friends and family members to schedule activities that get them out of the home and engaged in an activity that everyone can enjoy together.

Unfortunately, however, not all incompatibility issues can be fixed and it is not unusual for couples to decide to file for divorce. The good news is, of course, that divorce marks not only the end of a relationship, but also the beginning of a new phase of life.

If you are considering filing for divorce, it could be a good time to speak to an experienced divorce attorney. A divorce lawyer can explain the divorce process, take time to address your concerns and can help you get a fresh start. Speak to a divorce attorney today for more information.