Learn to successfully co-parent this summer

Divorcing parents will want to take steps to establish a new, co-parenting relationship.

As summer vacation is now upon us and children are home from school, divorced parents who are working on establishing a co-parenting relationship may encounter some stumbling blocks.

If you are in the process of divorcing your spouse and are sharing custody of your children, take some time to determine how you will establish a successful co-parenting relationship. Following a few guidelines will not only make the transition easier for your children, but it will also help you to create a new relationship with your former spouse.

Establish a new relationship with your ex

Above all, you and your former significant other will have to redefine your roles. While you may not be married any longer, you both still play an important part in raising your children. Consequently, if possible, you will want to find a way to continue some type of healthy relationship with your ex.

As a married couple, you likely had disagreements over a range of topics. When divorced, it is a good idea to let go of the issues, if possible, that did not relate to the children. You no longer need to rehash each problem that led to the divorce. Now, your main priority as a couple is to continue raising your children in a healthy environment.

Keep the negativity away from your children

Nevertheless, during the divorce proceedings, it is normal to have some disagreements with your ex emerge. In such situations, make every effort to shield your children from the conflict between you and your former spouse.

In many cases, it is in the child's best interest to maintain a relationship with both parents. Often, physical custody is shared, meaning children will spend significant periods of time with both parents. Consequently, it is best to avoid making negative comments about the other parent in front of the children, as they will only serve to confuse your children and cause stress.

Promptly discuss issues with your former spouse

During the summer months, a co-parenting schedule that may have become a well-oiled machine could face some obstacles. As the children's schedules are often more flexible during the summer, parents can encounter issues in terms of arranging their own schedules.

Rather than stewing over the other parent being late for pick up and drop off times, consider promptly addressing these issues in a measured manner. If the schedule you arranged during the school year no longer works in the summer, it may be time to consider modifying the child custody arrangement.

If parents are unable to reach agreements on their own, it may be a wise idea to seek the counsel of legal professionals.

If you are thinking about divorcing your spouse, you will need the help of a knowledgeable family law attorney. A lawyer will be able to advocate on your behalf, to ensure an equitable dissolution is achieved.

Keywords: divorce, child custody, co-parenting