Children are usually pretty flexible, so you have to remember that when you are trying to set the parenting plan after your divorce. But just because they are flexible doesn't mean that they won't have problems adjusting to the divorce. Your job as their parent is to make sure that they have the support and tools to live their best life now.
When you think about the child custody agreement, make sure that the child has time with both parents. Take the time to let them know that building a relationship with both parents is important. There are only a few situations, such as if a parent is abusive, that this isn't appropriate.
You also have to set the standard for the atmosphere in your home. For the most part, children will do better with a calm home environment. There should be clear rules so they know what is expected, but they should have a safe space to relax. Finding this balance might take a bit of time, but make sure that you are watching your child for clues as to how they are doing with everything.
We know that you might not be sure how to set up the parenting plan. You have to think about what terms you need to have in writing that won't be broken on a regular basis. The goal is to make sure that the kids have stability and the support of both parents. We can work with you to come up with terms that might be agreeable to you and your ex. If both parents can agree on these terms, the agreement can usually be customized for the kids based on the knowledge you and your ex have about the situation.