Child custody matters are often very contentious. Parents might think that their way is the only way that the child can thrive, but they don’t necessarily want to acknowledge that the other parent’s ways might work. This can actually work against them when they are trying to work out solutions to issues for the child custody.
One thing that parents need to remember is that they have to put the children first. An all or nothing take on these matters can work against you if you are going through mediation to work through the child custody case. When this happens, you have to be willing to negotiate unless you are prepared to fight things out in a trial.
We realize that you might have specific points of the custody case that you feel are very important. It is imperative that we place our focus on these even if it means letting some of the others go. Before the first meeting with your ex’s side, make a list of all the issues you think might come up. Put these in order of importance so that we know where to focus our efforts.
If you and your ex are considering co-parenting, you should be prepared to work together for the long haul. In these cases, you will have to make decisions as a team long after the custody agreement is finalized. There should be some clear rules for these situations. For example, you and your ex should handle contentious matters in private without using the children as messengers. Mutual respect is another must-have rule. We can help you ensure that your custody paperwork reflects the needs of your circumstances.