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Modification of a child support order is sometimes possible

Trying to support a child on a single income is challenging. Child support orders help to ensure that both parents are providing for the child financially. It is imperative that the parents are in compliance at all times. The parent who is receiving the funds on the child's behalf counts on this money to provide for them.

There are instances in which the paying parent might have circumstances change that make it difficult for them to make their payments. Things like a job loss or demotion are two examples. If you're the paying parent who learns that you'll have a significant change in your income, you may turn to the court to ask for a modification.

After a divorce, these custody tips can help

When you have previously gotten to see your children every day, switching over to a child custody schedule with your ex can be difficult after a divorce. It is common, though, as the courts want most children to have a relationship with both parents. That means splitting up the time. There's just no way around it.

How can you make sure that things go well? Here are a few important tips:

  • Focus on strong relationships. You don't have as much time with the kids anymore. Make the time that you do have count. Don't just "watch" the children because you have to. Spend your time really connecting with them and building that relationship.
  • Honor your obligations. If you have to pay child support, do it. If you need to drop the kids off with your ex at a certain time, don't be late. When you do this, it insulates the children from the stress when their parents don't get along.
  • Go to important events in the child's life. These moments mean everything. Make sure you get to graduations, sporting events, and other things of this nature, even if they don't perfectly fit your schedule.
  • Always respect your ex in front of the child. Yes, your marriage did not work out, but you are still the child's parents. Strive to get along, work together and provide the child with a good example regardless.

3 tips for having a safe child custody exchange

As a parent, your primary objective in life is to keep your kids safe and healthy. If you share parenting duties with a former spouse, you expect the co-parent also to prioritize the safety of your children. Still, emotions often run raw in the aftermath of a divorce. As such, you may need a strategy for having a safe child custody exchange. 

Parents often split custody and visitation of the kids. When your time with your children is over, you must hand them off to their other parent. Because the exchange can be emotionally fraught, you must be careful to manage the situation proactively. Here are three tips for having a safe child custody exchange: 

Prenuptial agreements must protect both parties

Anyone who is thinking of getting married needs to learn a bit about prenuptial agreements, so they can determine whether they need to enter into one or not. There are several things that you can include in the agreement, but there are also several that can't. It is imperative that you learn these, so you can do what's best.

One important thing to remember when you are creating a prenuptial agreement is that it doesn't have to do only with assets. The agreement is useful if one spouse is coming into the union with considerable debts, such as student loans. The terms of the agreement can note that those loans will only be the responsibility of the original loan holder.

Tips for making child custody less stressful

For parents who a divorcing, minimizing the impact on the children becomes a priority. While many people tend to focus on the things that can go wrong during the child custody battle, there are many ways that the parents can encourage things to go right. One thing that you must do is give up on the "me versus them" line of thought.

Working as a team with your ex might seem like it isn't possible; however, you have to do what is best for the children. This can benefit the children because it shows them how to use teamwork even in difficult situations. It also gives you a chance to ensure that the plan is set up according to what they need.

How can I handle custody over the holidays?

If you are newly divorced, one learning curve to master is how to divvy up time with the kids over the winter holidays. Whether you celebrate Yule, Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa — or some combination thereof — you will want to have the kids with you to celebrate.

The problem is that their other parent likely will, too. So how can this be accomplished? There are several potential ways to manage holiday custody schedules, including the following options.

Co-owners divorcing can be challenging for a business

Some couples decide to go into business together. This is a great chance to build something as a team, but it can be very difficult to cope with if the marriage falls apart while the company is still going strong. You have to figure out how to handle this situation if it occurs, and it might take time to do so because there might not be any easy answers.

There are several aspects of the situation that you will have to deal with when this happens. Even though they are all intertwined, it is best to compartmentalize everything. Keep your personal feelings for your ex away from your feelings about them as they relate to the business. You also need separate the financial matters.

Parental alienation requires a quick response

Few relationships are more significant than that between parent and child. After all, you have an opportunity to instill good moral character in the young one in your life. If you are sharing parental duties with an unscrupulous co-parent, though, you may become the victim of parental alienation. 

Parental alienation occurs when one parent tries to turn a child against the other parent. While it can take many forms, parental alienation often involves mental and emotional manipulation. Eventually, the child prefers one parent over the other. The child may even develop deep-seated hatred or resentment toward the rejected parent. 

Children shouldn't be messengers or reporters for parents

Your children are stuck in the middle of your divorce, but there are ways that you can help them to adjust to the situation. The goal of the child custody arrangement is to provide them with a stable home life even if it is between two homes.

One of the most important things that you can do as a parent is to ensure that they aren't using the children as messengers. Using them in this manner can entail a few different actions, so be sure that you are aware of all of them.

Help your children learn to be positive during your divorce

Divorces are often negative and messy. This can make your children feel uneasy about the future. It might help them to feel better about the direction they are going if you teach them how to have a positive outlook on life.

Encouraging your children to have meaningful relationships with both sides of the family is one of the ways you can encourage them to remain positive. Often, kids feel like they have to choose one side or the other, but they will probably experience a reduction in stress when they learn you want them to continue to interact with your ex's family.

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