Devising a workable parenting plan for your children can be rather difficult. One thing that can be hard for parents to understand is that they can't have their own way on everything. Taking the time to ascertain what is in the best interests of the children can be beneficial in these cases. There are some points that you will do well to remember as you go through this process.
You can't put anything or anyone before the children in these cases. Their needs are the only ones that matter. This can be hard to handle when your emotions are still raw from the split. Take the time to address your feelings and then put them in their place. Now is the time that you can only do what your children need you to do, even if that means that your ex "wins" some points in the custody arrangement.
It might be tempting to try to tip the tables in your favor by bringing up all the negative things you can think of about your ex. Frankly, those don't matter at all unless they have to do with neglect or abuse of the children. There is also a chance that brining up all those negative points might work against you in the matter, so tread lightly and avoid a mud-slinging campaign.
As you come to agreements about the terms of the parenting plan, make sure you carefully choose the included wording. You need to have a plan outlined for the children, but you also need to ensure that there is enough flexibility to meet the children's needs as they mature.