When you have previously gotten to see your children every day, switching over to a child custody schedule with your ex can be difficult after a divorce. It is common, though, as the courts want most children to have a relationship with both parents. That means splitting up the time. There’s just no way around it.
How can you make sure that things go well? Here are a few important tips:
- Focus on strong relationships. You don’t have as much time with the kids anymore. Make the time that you do have count. Don’t just “watch” the children because you have to. Spend your time really connecting with them and building that relationship.
- Honor your obligations. If you have to pay child support, do it. If you need to drop the kids off with your ex at a certain time, don’t be late. When you do this, it insulates the children from the stress when their parents don’t get along.
- Go to important events in the child’s life. These moments mean everything. Make sure you get to graduations, sporting events, and other things of this nature, even if they don’t perfectly fit your schedule.
- Always respect your ex in front of the child. Yes, your marriage did not work out, but you are still the child’s parents. Strive to get along, work together and provide the child with a good example regardless.
These tips can make child custody go more smoothly, but it’s also a good idea to make sure you know your legal rights, especially if you run into issues or disputes.