Things to consider when divorcing a narcissist

On Behalf of | Mar 25, 2022 | Family Law

Divorce is never easy in Massachusetts, but it can be especially difficult when you are divorcing a narcissist. Narcissists are often charming and manipulative, which can make the divorce process very complicated. If you are considering divorcing a narcissist, it is important to understand the challenges that you will likely face and know how to protect yourself during the process.

Who is a narcissist?

A narcissist is someone who has an inflated sense of self-importance and a need for excessive admiration. They often have a lack of empathy for others and can be very manipulative. Narcissists can be difficult to deal with during any situation, but especially during a divorce.

What are some of the challenges you will likely face?

One of the biggest challenges is that narcissists often have difficulty handling any type of criticism or conflict. They may react with rage, manipulation, or threats in order to get their way. This can make the divorce process very difficult and stressful. You may also find that the narcissist tries to control everything during the divorce, including what you say and do. It is important to be prepared for this and to have a support system in place to help you deal with it.

Another challenge you may face is that narcissists often try to turn the tables and blame you for the problems in your relationship. They may also try to gaslight you, which is a form of emotional manipulation where they try to make you question your own memories or perception of events. This can be very confusing and frustrating, so it is important to be prepared for it.

Finally, narcissists often have a lot of anger and hostility, which can make the divorce process very difficult and emotionally charged.

Think about your children

If you have children, it is important to think about how the divorce will affect them. Narcissists can often be very hostile and manipulative when it comes to family law issues, such as child custody and visitation. They may try to use the children as a weapon against you or turn them against you. It is important to be prepared for this and to have a plan in place to protect your children.

If you are divorcing a narcissist, it is important to be aware of the challenges that you will likely face and know how to protect yourself. Seek out support from family and friends, as well as professionals who can help you navigate this difficult time. Remember that your children can also be affected by the divorce and take steps to protect them as well.